Queenie's Cross

There was a teeny tiny speck-like blot on the landscape of my lovely trip to London. I ran into an old acquaintance who I know to be an interesting, quirky, intelligent woman. I was pleased to see her, and in the course of catching up, I told her proudly that I've sold two short stories to women's magazines.

'So you've worked out the formula, then,' she said.

At which point I suddenly wanted to get all shouty, but being a v mature grown-up type of person (yeah, right!) I managed to control myself and muttered something inane before rapidly changing the subject.

It did make me feel cross, though. It's not her fault; she's absorbed and repeated a common misconception, and I'm sure I've done that myself many times. For sure, women's magazine short stories are hardly Grate Litrachur. But there is no formula. There are many types of story beyond the boy-meets-girl romance, such as crime, humour, historical, family, or supernatural, and there are some that don't fit into any genre. There are a few do's and don'ts - which differ from magazine to magazine - and beyond that, it's all creativity and skill.

I was writing for years and years before I sold a short story. That's 'writing,' not 'working out a formula'. Mostly I was writing rubbish, but it was good practice and I learned a lot from the process. Still do, in fact. In the last year, I've written 26 short stories, of which I've sold two. There are several others out there, so my average could go up any day - but actually, as mags receive 50-100 stories for every one they publish, two out of 26 isn't at all bad. And the other 24 were, again, good practice.

My stories won't change the world. But they may provide a little entertainment for someone sitting on a bus or a train, or putting their feet up at home. One of my stories might give a slight lift to someone's spirits, or offer someone a nugget of new information, or just enable someone to pass a few enjoyable minutes. Small effects, but positive ones, that I don't think could be achieved by using a formula.

What I Did On My Holidays

Trips up the river on a boat in glorious sunshine: 1
Hugs and kisses from friends and relatives: 34
Work meetings, good, also involving hugs and kisses from lovely clients: 2
Fabulous art exhibitions (one hats, one Constructivists, one Picasso): 3
Sumptuous meals out (one V&A lunch, one Gordon Ramsay gastro-pub, one gourmet vegetarian, one Thai): 4
Delicious dinners in: 4
Glasses of wine: errr, lost count
Beers: 2
Large Calvadoses (or should that be Calvadii): 2
Hangovers: 1 (oops - I think it was the Calvadoses, or possibly the Calvadii, or maybe there is no plural because you're only supposed to drink them in ones, hmmm)

Highlights: all of it, really, except for the hangover. Let's try for one per day.

Monday: sitting in the V&A cafe with my laptop, working on the plot of my novel, feeling like a proper writer. (And the exhibitions - I saw the hats before lunch, then after lunch I looked at the frocks and the shoes. Now that's what I call a real museum.)

Tuesday: the boat trip, riverside walk and pub lunch with my lovely auntie who retired from her job as a special school teacher last summer. We've been promising ourselves some weekday fun since then and it couldn't have been better.

Wednesday: the Constructivists. I knew very little about them and it was fascinating. I particularly liked Popova's work, and was sorry she had such a sad short life - she married, had a son, then the following year her husband died of typhoid, then four years later her son died of scarlet fever and soon afterwards she did too. She was only 35 and I think she had a lot of work still to do.

Thursday: Picasso. It's a themed exhibition, rather than simply chronological, so there was a room for self-portraits, another for nudes, another for still-lifes, etc, with the paintings displayed chronologically within each room. I really liked the way this helped me to think about his work differently. The gourmet veggie lunch was pretty damn good too.

Friday: coming home after a terrific work meeting. I landed a great project last week, a writing assignment with some research but it's mostly about using language creatively to explain complicated stuff to people who need help to understand it, and I like doing that.

And the weather was perfect! I think London looks at its best in the sunshine.

I'm still glad I don't live there any more, though. It's exhausting - I'm knackered now - and although I had a wonderful time, I'm very glad to be home.

Writing Progress

So, about my goals for March. I didn't meet a single one as work just got too crazy. April has been easier workwise, but difficult health-wise. However, I have made some progress with my April goals (yes I know it's over halfway through the month now, but I've only just got round to blogging this, OK?). These are:

1. Write two short stories (done)
2. Edit and resubmit three short stories (underway)
3. Edit and submit three short stories (errr...)
4. Start on the sixth draft of the novel (underway)

Sixth draft? What are you playing at, Queenie?

Well, it's a tricky business, this novel writing. Sol Stein reckons his novels go through 11-13 drafts. On that basis, I'm only halfway there.

Here's how it's gone so far. I've written several other novels in the past, but never got beyond a first draft (and sometimes not even that far). A few years ago I went on an Arvon course where the tutors helped me to decide which of my ideas to take forward. The idea they liked best was one where I'd written the first draft in multiple third person POVs. One of the tutors advised me that this was too difficult for a novice novelist, and that I should write it all in single POV. So for the next four drafts I tried very hard to do this, and learned a lot of useful stuff about writing in the process. BUT the story refuses to be shoe-horned into a single person's POV, so one of my main tasks for the sixth draft is to put it back into multiple POVs. I think I'm ready to tackle that now.

The other main task is to design a proper plot - something else I've managed to get away with not doing up to now. I'm starting with that, scene by scene. I expect there will be about 80 scenes in total. So far I'm up to no. 4. I'd like to get them all planned by the end of this month, then I can start writing/rewriting next month. Some scenes, I'm sure, won't need a lot of reworking; some will need writing from scratch; some will need editing. I'll be glad when I get an idea of how many fall into each category.

I'm off to London today for a few days of jollity with friends and relatives, and a smidgen of work. I'll be taking my laptop and my plan is to work on trains, and in the early mornings, and in odd hours in between meeting people, and try to make some serious progress with the novel. Not sure how I'll get on... but it's worth a try. I'd like to get this draft finished by the end of June, although whether I manage that or not probably depends on how much paid work comes in over the next couple of months. We shall see.

Neighbour News

Remember Pam and Bob, our troubled next-door neighbours? Pam rang me!!! I found a message on the answerphone saying hello, this is Pam from next door, thank you for the card and the flowers, please could you let me have the phone number for your window cleaner? I had to psych myself up to ring back, but ring back I did. And we had a cordial chat lasting 6 minutes and 18 seconds, which I reckon more than doubles the amount of time she and I have spent exchanging words in the last seven years.

She asked after my operation and I told her about it, turns out she had the same one 20 years ago so she was suitably sympathetic. Then I asked after Bob. She told me he was only diagnosed with mesothelioma two months ago and their lives have been turned upside-down. When he was in hospital, he couldn't go to our nearest one (25 minutes' drive away) because he needed specialist care in a hospital that is more like an hour's drive from here, depending on traffic. Now he's at home, he has a bed downstairs in the living room and nurses coming in twice a day.

It must be very stressful for you, I suggested gently. Pam agreed that it was, and said in some ways the worst thing is that Bob can't remember ever being exposed to asbestos - which is, in theory, the only way people get his particular type of cancer.

She sounded sober, so I guess maybe his illness is having a positive effect in some ways. It was as good a conversation as it could have been. She knows, now, that if she rings for something we will respond. I don't feel right about ringing her just to chat, but if I was concerned I could pick up the phone (we never knew her number before). And now, if I meet her in the street, I can say 'how are you and Bob doing?' and be ready for a real answer. So I think that's progress.

A Tale Of Woe

I was so looking forward to the Easter weekend. After months of illness and surgery, followed by months of working like a crazy manic thing, I'd planned an Easter full of treats. Three friends were coming from FarAway City; we had tickets for an ace gig on Saturday night; after they left today, I was going to visit a writer friend and talk about writerly things.

On Thursday I started a cold. Oh well, I thought, Day Nurse/Night Nurse to the rescue, I'll be fine. Friday night was fun, I cooked a good dinner, the friends arrived at wine o'clock, it was all very convivial and jolly. The cold was developing but I was medicating it into submission.

Then on Saturday I got up and, as one does on first getting up, went to relieve myself. I don't know a good euphemism for the next bit, so I'll tell you straight. I was in the process of wiping my bum when something just under my shoulder blade went TWANG and hurt like hell. Oh bugger, I thought, that really doesn't feel good. While in hospital before Christmas, I got the hang of the 1-10 pain scale. It was a 10. No question.

I stood still for a minute and it receded back to an 8. I sorted myself out, washed my hands and staggered back to bed. Maybe if I lie still for a while, I thought, it'll calm down. But it didn't. It hurt to breathe. I was lying in an awkward position, only half covered by the duvet, but I couldn't move. Every time I tried, I scored a perfect 10. I stuck it for about half an hour and then gave up and woke my Paramour.

He and I between us couldn't move me, so we ended up calling an ambulance. I've never done that before in my life. Mick the Paramedic turned up first, did some investigations then gave me Entonox aka gas-and-air, another new experience and a very welcome one. Then another Mick and his partner Dan Dan the Ambulance Man arrived. They were lovely, so kind and helpful. On the way to the hospital, the second Mick told me he thought it was probably just a pulled muscle. I think he wanted to reassure me, which in a way he did, although I replied that I'd feel a right prat if I'd called out an ambulance for a pulled muscle. 'No need,' he said, 'it can be very painful, and you're clearly in a lot of pain, so you've done the right thing.' I could have kissed him, but I sucked on the Entonox nozzle instead.

Two hours in A&E, some prodding and yelling and an X-ray, and it was indeed a torn muscle. I was given Tramadol for the pain and Diazepam to relax my muscles, and sent home with instructions to rest. No problem there, I didn't have any other options. The drugs worked well and I spent a happy afternoon on the sofa, chatting with my friends. They went off to the gig and I had a small dinner as I wasn't feeling very hungry.

Then the nausea started, and the hot chills and the cold sweats. Oh joy. I wondered whether it was a reaction to the drugs, and stopped taking them. I very nearly puked - got as far as standing in the toilet waiting for it to happen - but it didn't. I don't, generally; it's been about 12 years since the last time. I found it hard to sleep because of the pain in my back, and took a painkiller at around 12.30 am, and another around 2.30 when the first one seemed to have gone down OK. I finally slept from about 4 to 7 am.

I still felt sick when I woke up, and didn't want to eat anything, so decided to stay off the drugs again. My Paramour took our friends out sightseeing in the afternoon, and I thought I'd risk some natural yogurt with a little honey. I figured if that went down OK, I could try something more solid, and then maybe have some longed-for painkillers. But it didn't go down OK at all, and this time there was proper puking. Yuck. I gave up on everything and went back to bed.

And I felt lousy all day today, until the nausea abated halfway through watching Clare on Countdown - I tell you, she has magic powers! Having said that, I still feel fairly rough - back hurts; nose is snotty; most of me aches, and I have no energy - but nausea is the worst, and now that's shifted, I feel as if I'm on the mend.

I think perhaps, as that clever Mr Pratchett would say, my brain's been writing cheques that my body can't cash. It looks as if I've had three in one: a snotty cold, a back injury, and some kind of gastric virus. They say bad things come in threes, and although I'm not generally superstitious, I'd be glad if that one could come true this time, because I'd really like to get better now.

Positive Thinking #3

This is my third and last post on positive thinking, for now. I'd like to recommend another website: Self Esteem To Go, written by Zoltan Roth. Zoltan has left a couple of comments on my blog, so I went to check out his website. He has had an interesting life: born in Hungary, he qualified as a teacher, then emigrated to the USA, learned English, and re-qualified as a massage therapist. He has written articles on self-esteem for several other websites and e-zines. His website offers lots of information about positive thinking, self-esteem, self-confidence and so on. Well worth a look.

And here's a slightly different take on positive thinking. I had some friends staying over last night: Al and Vajra, and their two daughters, Phoebe aged 8 and Rebecca who is five and three-quarters. Rebecca has a docile angelic demeanour that belies a fierce intelligence, a wicked sense of humour, and a mischievous streak as wide as the English channel. Over dinner, Al told us how Rebecca had recently started sucking her thumb, and Phoebe had started biting her nails. So, Al said, they'd talked about this all together, and they'd decided to use 'Stop 'n' Grow', a vile-tasting but harmless product that can be painted onto nails. Phoebe was nodding sagely. I looked at Rebecca and she was wearing her most winsome expression.

'It worked on me,' Phoebe said, and held out her hands for me to see.

'Lovely nails, well done!' I said. 'What about you, Rebecca?'

'It didn't work on me,' she said, her face serious.

'Do you know why?' I asked.

She nodded and broke into a 5000 kilowatt grin. 'I gave them the other thumb.'

'She did!' Phoebe crowed. 'But she didn't do anything wrong. Mum or Dad would say "give me your thumb," and Rebecca did what she was told.'

I couldn't help but laugh at Rebecca's audacity. I looked at Al and Vajra to see if they minded, but they were laughing too.

'For weeks,' Vajra said, inbetween giggles, 'and we never realised.'

Positive Thinking #2

Following on from my last post, I had a polite and friendly email from John Cruttera, asking me to link to his website on positive thinking. As you can see, I'm happy to oblige. I surfed around the site for a while, and found much of it thought-provoking. Most of it interested me, but one sentence on the home page made my researcher's antennae stand up. Here's the sentence:

Of the 65,000 thoughts that flit through your mind each day, 95% of them are the same ones you thought yesterday.

This seems intuitively believable at first sight. But Mr Cruttera doesn't cite a source for his assertion. I couldn't imagine how thoughts could be measured, either quantitatively (number of thoughts) or qualitatively (subject of thoughts). Mine are a big old mess, a lot of the time! So off I went to Google, and found lots of webpages quoting the same statistics, some citing respected medical author Deepak Chopra as the source, and no information about methods anywhere. Some webpages say that these (or similar) figures are estimates, but I haven't found anything specifying the basis for those estimates - although I haven't researched this exhaustively, so if anyone has any information about this, please let us know via the comments box.

Please don't think I'm criticising Mr Cruttera; I'm not. I'm sure he reproduced the statistics in good faith. But it is alarmingly common to find people using statistics to give credibility to arguments, even when those statistics themselves have little credibility. Think about it. Sixty-five thousand thoughts per day? That's over 2700 thoughts per hour, every hour, including when we're asleep. Let's assume, for the sake of argument, that we can think just as much when we're asleep as when we're awake. That we can in fact think 45 thoughts per minute, 24 hours a day. That's one thought every single 1.3 seconds, round the clock. Hmmmm. I am unconvinced - but happy to hear arguments, in either direction. Bring 'em on!

I am in favour of positive thinking. I am also in favour of analytic thinking, deconstructionist thinking, critical thinking (in the positive sense) - the kind of thinking that doesn't take things at face value and informs debate. I am very much in favour of thinking for fun. This is where Mr Cruttera's site really shines. My favourite pages are those where he keeps stories and quotes about positive thinking. I'll leave you with the first quote from his quotes page:

A positive attitude may not solve all your problems, but it will annoy enough people to make it worth the effort. ~Herm Albright, quoted in Reader’s Digest, June 1995