tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7461550018707850575.post4072527012816964768..comments2024-01-06T11:53:26.231+00:00Comments on Qwerty Queen: Neighbour ChangesQueeniehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/06988379866736219329noreply@blogger.comBlogger9125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7461550018707850575.post-66799156581567672112009-11-02T10:22:55.795+00:002009-11-02T10:22:55.795+00:00I really believe you should do nothing for a year....I really believe you should do nothing for a year. I hope her family is supportive.<br />As for neighbours - three of my close friends are in the neighbourhood but experience has taught me to have a friendly but distant relation ship with immediate neighbours. Think on!Pathttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01529798893653033970noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7461550018707850575.post-11635723433732016722009-11-02T07:56:26.652+00:002009-11-02T07:56:26.652+00:00Dearest Squirrel, I think that is the nicest blog ...Dearest Squirrel, I think that is the nicest blog comment in the history of the Internet. Thank you very much. I'm not sure I deserve it, but... thank you.<br />And thanks to everyone else, as well.Queeniehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06988379866736219329noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7461550018707850575.post-67720248468164593762009-10-31T21:31:34.612+00:002009-10-31T21:31:34.612+00:00Sending out good thoughts to Pam - and to you for ...Sending out good thoughts to Pam - and to you for doing what you could xHelenMWaltershttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16182100572365505905noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7461550018707850575.post-38109595320683393822009-10-30T18:51:47.052+00:002009-10-30T18:51:47.052+00:00I agree with B Squirrel. A lovely post, beautiful...I agree with B Squirrel. A lovely post, beautifully written :o) I hope Pam will be ok.Karenhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05986874444030474719noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7461550018707850575.post-68109488718333128802009-10-30T18:29:19.822+00:002009-10-30T18:29:19.822+00:00what they all said - but I also hope the Paramour ...what they all said - but I also hope the Paramour is right about Pam - sad all around.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7461550018707850575.post-6505165233497119992009-10-30T15:42:58.123+00:002009-10-30T15:42:58.123+00:00Beautifully put by the Squirrel.
As so often ha...Beautifully put by the Squirrel. <br /><br />As so often happens, you write movingly and without judgment about other people but it also reveals so much about you. All of it good but without any hint of smugness or self-consciousness. It's all there for the reader to find.<br /><br />Hurray for you indeed.Debihttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09600815804658702077noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7461550018707850575.post-58023814208560169992009-10-30T11:30:27.864+00:002009-10-30T11:30:27.864+00:00Ditto JJ.
Your new neighbours sound lovely, and i...Ditto JJ.<br /><br />Your new neighbours sound lovely, and it's especially nice for them as they've obviously wanted to live in their new home for a long time.Deborah Carr (Debs)https://www.blogger.com/profile/03223653554549707595noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7461550018707850575.post-12188186887177453572009-10-30T10:45:59.745+00:002009-10-30T10:45:59.745+00:00What a lovely post and a lovely comment from Belea...What a lovely post and a lovely comment from Beleaguered Squirrel.Jenny Beattiehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00640209636605410939noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7461550018707850575.post-12616508193601231082009-10-30T09:22:33.035+00:002009-10-30T09:22:33.035+00:00Aw, that story is both sad and happy. Happy that y...Aw, that story is both sad and happy. Happy that you get nice new neighbours, sad that Pam is having a hard time and may not face that great a future. Although having said that, even when the decisions we make are not the best, change - in my experience - is nearly always a good thing eventually.<br /><br />But none of that is what really struck me when reading this piece. What struck me is the thing that first drew me to your writing, and I guess (since we are now good friends) to you. As a person, you are incredibly good at balancing the bad and the good, and at having an overview that takes in the complexities of a situation without being tempted to bend the stick in one direction or another. You're also compassionate but honest. You're not insincere and you don't get caught in the liberal trap of feeling as though you have to say nice things about everybody. The irony is that, by not being mealy-mouthed, you end up being kinder than the alternative. Because you don't hide your dislikes from yourself or others, it means that when you're kind the recipient can believe you really mean it. And I bet this is why Pam was able to say such nice things about you. <br /><br />And what is more, as well as having these personal traits, you find a way of putting them into your writing. This means you can write honestly about people, portraying both flaws and good points: Not lying about the bad things, but still eliciting sympathy in the hearts of your readers.<br /><br />I know you might be laughing at some of this, because we've had conversations about your tendency to sugar-coat your characters and hide their flaws. But you don't always do it, you haven't always done it, and this is a brilliant example of you not doing it.<br /><br />Hurray for you!Beleaguered Squirrelhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13699493386984083561noreply@blogger.com